Hi there! How was your weekend? I had the pleasure of heading to my brother’s house for a bbq on Saturday. My sister-in-law makes some amazing food so I always like going to their house!
We also made sure to have plenty of beach time this weekend! I just finished reading On the Island where two people get stranded on a beach in the Maldives. The Hubs said that was my dream…he’s not far off!
Switching gears…Does being good at something define us? If you are good at your job, does that mean that you are a career person? If you are good at running, does that mean you are exclusively a runner? If you are good at languages, does that mean you must be an interpreter or work in international relations? What if you want to be any of these things but you aren’t good at it? I guess the more accurate question is, do you have to be good at something to do it?
I’ve always been one of those people who enjoys trying new experiences and doing a lot of different things. You might have noticed on this blog that if there is a new fitness studio, a new type of workout or a new DVD, I’m trying it. I have an intrinsic need to try new things. I love kickboxing, dancing, Zumba, barre, yoga, golf, tennis, swimming, kayaking…the list could go on and on. But I’m not the best at any of these things. There is always someone else who is a better dancer, a stronger player or just plain better than me. Sometimes I don’t even care that I’m mediocre. For example, I’ve been playing golf for about two decades and I’m still pretty terrible. I only play if I can cheat! But I have no desire to really improve. All I want is to get out in the sunshine, hit the ball around and enjoy some time with friends or family. Should I strive for more?
It seems like these days we are programmed to be the best we can be. Work as hard as you can and you will achieve. Focus on your goals and you will succeed. While I don’t think there is anything wrong with this message, I wonder if we sacrifice some general pleasure by forcing ourselves to be the best at only a few select things. If I spend all of my time becoming a better tennis player, does that mean I can’t try surfing? Also, what if I’m a really good lawyer but I hate it? When will I have the opportunity to cultivate a different skill if I’m working hard being really good at one thing?
There is also a perception that unless you are the best at something, it’s not worth your time pursuing it. I know I’m not the *best* blogger out there. There are probably hundreds of other blogs with better photography, better content, better ads, better sponsored posts, better traffic, etc. But I love my little space on the internet and I’m going to keep writing and posting and photoing. Should I stop because I’ll never make a lot of money off it or I’ll never be picked of the best ambassadorships?
So I may not be the best at everything, but I’m going to keep doing it anyway. So what if I’m not the best cyclist in the world. I love it! So what if I’ve only been rockclimbing a few times…I enjoy it!
Readers, do you feel pressure to be the best at something? Do you find pleasure in doing things you aren’t good at or do they frustrate you? Do you like to try a lot of new things or stick to what you know and are good at?
For me it varies – I don’t feel the need to try and be great at blogging because, like you, I enjoy my space and the blog friends I’ve made. Golf, on the other hand, I want to be good and tend to get very frustrated when I play. Chris likes it when I drink beer if we are playing because then I’m a little more easy going about it;)
I absolutely agree with you!!! It’s funny how you can get “stuck” in something because you feel like you’re supposed to do it. There are plenty of things I’m not good at, but I continue doing because it’s FUN. For me, I actually like doing something I’m not so good at, that way, there’s zero pressure and 100% joy.
I am slightly competitive (and sometimes envious of others) but I try to focus on just bettering myself. Although sometimes that’s hard for me. I do know that when I relax a little I’m happier. I am mediocre at tons of things but I don’t think of myself as an expert on one thing either.
I love the beach, too! I wish I could get there more.
I had a conversation about this recently about me singing. I used to perform all the way through college. Now I only do wedding + funerals, sadly. But I miss singing so much. I have been dying to go to an open mic, but I feel like I need to get my vocal chords back in shape since I haven’t performed in awhile. I am so afraid of going for it and sucking! lol… maybe I should go for it… maybe. 🙂
Great topic. I tend to want to be the best at everything I try. I suppose it’s the perfectionist and competetor in me, but I think I miss out on some fun opportunities because of it. I’m learning that it’s not about how good I am, but about how much fun I’m having or how much Im enjoying it! Definitely something to remember!
Loved reading this! I completely agree! I have always been a HUGE perfectionist, and grew up playing sports where we were hounded at being the BEST we could possibly be, all the time. Which is fine. But now, I really enjoy doing and trying things I’m not that great at, but might be fun. Or doing things that I know I never will be the best at, but I know are giving me a good and unique workout!
Welp, since I’ve been watching that show “Naked and Afraid”, I could totally survive the Maldives. I’m survival show junky, ya know. Never mind that I still can’t make fire with two sticks. I’m working on it.
I definitely have those feelings in the back of my mind all the time…that unless I’m running fast, I’m not a runner, or unless I post every day and am learning how to make money off of my blog, I’m not a blogger. It can really bog down your self-worth. I think it comes with the territory of trying new things, though, and if you look at it that way, it feels a little better. You could focus all your time, effort and money on one thing and I’m sure you’d be great at it. But that would be soooooooo boring 🙂
LOVE this post! It really made me think. 🙂 My answer is that I am definitely not the best at anything I just try my own personal hardest, because if you don’t you will simply be copying someone else and I really dont want to do that! I know I am not the best runner but I am LOVING it, slow or not 🙂 same with Zumba, I know I am not the absolute best but I give all I can and I leave it all on the floor. I believe being the best you can should keep you happy otherwise you are just asking for trouble!
Girl, I think that we’re alike in a lot of ways. I am the exact same way! In the past I’ve had times where it has bugged me to not be all about one thing – the BEST at something – but I’ve realized that I enjoy doing a lot of different things and that’s how I like to live. I’m just not a ‘one thing’ person and I’m cool with that… because I have a hell of a lot of fun being just okay or a rookie at some things!
I love this post! It’s a good reminder to me to not let my insecurities get in the way of trying something new or doing something I’m not good at! I’m not extremely coordinated, so I’ve never really enjoyed sports. However, I really loved running because it’s a sport that doesn’t require much coordination, lol! I’m not a fantastic runner, but I love competing against myself and doing my best! I love your beach picture, btw. Looks heavenly!
I always feel the pressure to be the best at everything (which is hard because I’m not the best at anything haha). But I also think that just because we do something, it doesn’t define us! Being a med student doesn’t define me, and neither does being a runner, etc etc.