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Is Balance a Myth?

  • April 23, 2019
  • By Brittany
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Is Balance a Myth?

When I started this site, it was purely a blog. This was back in 2012. The blog was called My Own Balance and it was premised on the fact that I was a lawyer working in NYC who was expected to have no life outside of work. Health and fitness were to be on a way way back burner behind work, more work, maybe family, work and sleep. I started the blog as a way to invoke some balance into my life. It was a way for me to insist that health and fitness were, in fact, priorities in my life.

Fast forward to 2019, this site has gone through a few permutations but the blog is still here. And the main premise is still here too. Balance.

I’ve read A LOT about balance and what it means to other people. And many people, people I respect and admire have come out and said you can’t have balance in your life. If you are a working mom, you either have to be focused on your career or your kids. There is no in between. And if you are a SAHM, you need to only be focused on your kids. And if you have no kids, well, focus on work or one thing and stick with it!

Well, I don’t believe that at all. I think balance is achievable but it is how you define balance that matters.

I think my life is balanced but maybe it isn’t balanced on a day to day basis. There are some days that are just work days. Days when I need to sit at my computer or get in front of the camera and just bang things out. I can’t be distracted, I can’t worry about what is going on with the husband and the kids. I just have to focus.

There are other days where I spend a TON of time planning activities, making snacks and just BEING with the littles. I mean they are only small once, right!?

Then there are days where the hubs and I spend all the time to ourselves. We get a sitter and we play tennis or golf, have lunch and just worry about being adults with no toys, whining, crying or mess in site.

Do I feel guilty? Sometimes. But most of the time, I feel happy. I’m happy that I can work at home and do what I love. I’m happy I can spend meaningful time with my kids. I’m happy my husband and I can have some time alone to pursue the things we liked to do before we had kids. And I call this balance.

Is it a perfect equation? NO! There are weeks where I feel like all I do is work. There are weeks where I feel like I get nothing done. But, generally I feel like I get at least a little bit of everything in and that is what counts for me.

Some may look at my life and think, that isn’t balance! But to me it is. I’ve decided that this is my definition of balance. Health and fitness are a huge priority in my life (it is now my job!) and I’ve made it a priority in my kids’ lives too. We workout together (kids yoga and exercise/dance or baby pilates or Babies at the Barre!), we eat healthy meals and I generally feel good about the way we live. And isn’t that what we are all striving for at the end of the day?

So no, balance isn’t a myth. It is just something that you need to define and decide for yourself without anyone else telling you how it is done. What works for me might not and probably won’t work for someone else. But I believe that everyone can find their happy place even if it is imperfect.

What do you think about balance in your own life? Do you think it is achievable?

By Brittany, April 23, 2019
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