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Life as an Introvert (And Why I Think You’re One Too!)

  • September 17, 2013
  • By Brittany
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Life as an Introvert (And Why I Think You’re One Too!)

Hey folks!  Today is Day 2 of the Mini Blog Challenge with Joi at RxFitnessLady.  Today’s prompt is “Controversial Post.”  I’m not sure if this is really that controversial but I’m hoping it does spark some conversation.  Here goes nothing!

I like to go out with friends.  I also don’t like to go out with friends.  Stick with me for a second here.  See I love seeing my friends but I can only take it for short period of times. Not because I don’t like my friends (I do!) but I get tired.  There was one weekend a few months back where I had dinner plans with friends on Friday night, brunch on Saturday and a party on Saturday night.  I had a mini meltdown.  Not because I didn’t want to see all of these people (I did!) but it was just too much.
Maybe I just plan too many activities, you might say.  Well, that could be true but let me give you another situation.  Last fall I participated in Sweaty Saturday, a charity event.  I went to four(!) fitness classes in one day.  In between classes I did doc review for work. At the end of the day I was exhausted but happy.  I had spent the entire day alone.  The thing is . . . I’m an introvert. 

I know, I know.  You’ve heard it all before.  There are so many bloggers out there who are self-proclaimed introverts.  You’ve probably read this post before on someone else’s blog.  This leads me to my second point: if you’re a blogger, I bet you’re an introvert too! It seems to me that so many bloggers I read or meet aren’t shy to volunteer that they are introverted.  WHY??  (Disclaimer:  It’s totally ok if you are a blogger and you are the biggest extrovert EVER!  I making some generalizations with this post.)

Well, the thing with blogging is that it’s made up of words and photos.  It’s a conversation but only in the virtual sense.  There is a clear beginning and a clear end.  It can be done in your PJs and no one is the wiser.  Social interaction can be welcomed or limited based completely upon the blogger’s preference (is the laptop open or shut?  Smartphone on or off?).  Expressing ourselves in words is much easier than making actual contact because when we’ve had enough, we can simply sign off.

This is not to say that introverts are shy people that don’t like social contact.  On the contrary, introverts like people we just don’t need to be around a lot of people, all at once for long periods of time.  We like to process things, have alone time and think.  Blogging= lots of alone time to process and think. 

My non-blogging, extroverted acquaintances don’t always get this.  They sometimes think I’m a little strange for choosing to go home after work and blog over post-work drinks. It’s hard to explain that I’ve just spend eight-plus hours out in public around other people, I need alone time stat!  But really, I need to recharge for tomorrow.  Besides, I’m much more enjoyable to be around when I do feel recharged and am ready for social interaction! 

Sunset day

So can introverts get along with extroverts?  I like to think the answer to this question is a resounding “yes”!  The Hubs is an extrovert.  Full-fledged, all caps extrovert.  He loves being around people!  But he gets that sometimes, I don’t.  It works because of a mutual respect.  He understands that sometimes, we need to just watch a movie on the couch together.  I understand that an entire weekend just the two of us is generally not going to cut it.

So all of this is to say that I really, really like people but sometimes, I just don’t want to be around people.  I love doing my own thing, which includes blogging.  I also love connecting with other people on blogs because it’s a social activity where I dictate the terms and conditions. 

Readers, are you an introvert or an extrovert?  Are you a blogger or not?  Do you know anyone who you suspect is an introvert? 

 

By Brittany, September 17, 2013
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  • Davida @ The Healthy Maven
    September 17, 2013

    Is it possible I’m a bit of both? I definitely like my alone time but also know for my own sanity I need to be around other people. I max out social time like you do. My bf on the other hand could be around people 24/7. Maybe he just has more tolerance than me? When I’m with other people I am present and and pretty loud. I sound a lot like you actually! Meant to be friends πŸ˜‰

    • FitBritt
      September 17, 2013

      Definitely possible to be a bit of both. I think there is a spectrum. I think guys tend to be more extroverted than women as well. Don’t know why! πŸ™‚

  • Charlotte @ Commitness to Fitness
    September 17, 2013

    I’m an introvert too! haha introverted bloggers unite πŸ™‚ however, i tend to be a very outgoing introvert- i can be very chatty in public- but it EXHAUSTS me. like, i would need a recuperation day after that weekend of yours. however, most of my friends are extroverts and they all do think im weird when i choose to go home to blog rather than meet up for drinks!

  • natalie @ fit.fun.femme
    September 17, 2013

    I totally get this, but always blamed it on the fact that I’m an only child. I LOVE being alone and can happily spend days at a time with no contact with living things, except for my dog and the pizza delivery person. I do love my friends, though, and I love going out with them. It’s really hard to find a balance and I commend you for putting yourself first. I so often feel overwhelmed, which is why I try to give myself those quiet Friday nights on the couch πŸ™‚ Good post!

  • Anna
    September 17, 2013

    I never thought about it like that, but you’re totally right on – so many bloggers ARE introverts! I definitely wax and wane between being social and locking myself up in my apartment. I very much need to charge up my batteries if I have too much going on and I can totally relate to being wiped out after too many social outings πŸ™‚

  • Alison Hector
    September 17, 2013

    I’m an introvert too! I think we’re drawn to blogging because it fulfills the need to have “alone” to process and present our thoughts, yet we have virtual social interaction that we can control and enjoy on our own schedule. I, too, get tired if I’m around a great number of people at once. I feel myself longing for a quiet spot! But I’ve learned to pace myself so that there is enough interaction, normally one-on-one or with a small group of people, to keep my social needs in check, and a healthy amount of time by myself to regroup and replenish my introvert needs.

  • Tara
    September 17, 2013

    I took a really popular (can’t quite remember the name) personality test and they placed me as an introvert. I also think a lot of bloggers are introverts as well, because you can kind of ‘hide behind the screen’. It’s not bad at all.

    In regards to going out, sometimes you just want some time to yourself and it’s okay. πŸ™‚

  • Hope
    September 17, 2013

    I think I’m naturally and introvert also (kinda shy). But my profession forces me to be outgoing and connect with people. I regularly speak at seminars and interact with people (although most times it do it nervous). So I love my quiet alone time…which is also rare with 2 young children. The hubs is also a huge extrovert. Great post. #MBC

    • FitBritt
      September 17, 2013

      Wow! I can’t believe you have to speak in public. That’s my worst nightmare. As a litigator I had to speak in public often. Probably another reason why I didn’t enjoy it!

  • Allie
    September 17, 2013

    Introvert here!! I was nodding my head throughout this post!! I often op-out of social gatherings to be home, and with two kids and a husband if I EVER get time ALL alone I am deliriously happy. Really.

    • FitBritt
      September 17, 2013

      Right!? The Hubs has been working in Mexico for months and people are always trying to get me to go out with them or asking me how I’m coping and I’m like: I”m fine! I get to watch unlimited Housewives and do my own thing!

  • Joi @ Rx Fitness Lady
    September 17, 2013

    Yeah…jumping on the bandwagon! I am definitely an introvert! Lol, even at the blog conference, at the end of the days activities, I’d had enough…no cocktail party for me. I tried, but left after 5 minutes. I enjoyed the day but let’s not get out of control here! Great #MBC post dear! Thanks for sharing it with us! I might have to follow up and do my own post as well!

    • FitBritt
      September 17, 2013

      I honestly don’t know how I survived the blog conference. I had so much anxiety leading up to it. Luckily everyone there was so nice!

  • Kalee
    September 17, 2013

    I’m so an introvert!!!!! I’m so glad you did this post because sometimes I worry about not wanting to be around people all the time even though I really do love people. lol! I’m about to go on a trip and my introvert-ness is kind of worrying me lol! πŸ™‚ I’m excited, but I also plan on having a day to myself when I get home πŸ˜›

  • Kita
    September 17, 2013

    I love guests but once a month is enough for me. I am a loner but I do like to entertain every now and then and mingle. If I do anything I will do it that day and then regroup until the next month I can’t do the entertaining more than once a week and some do it all the time. Stopping over from #mbc

  • Carla
    September 17, 2013

    Hi! My name is Carla and I’m an introverted blogger. I totally get it! When my family comes over on Sundays I want them out of my house by 6:00 pm. Why? Because I have to go to work the next day and hang out with 349 other people for 8 hours (9 if you count lunch) and that’s really a lot of … work. I also try to avoid any type of social activity after work. It’s mentally draining. At the same time, I love to go to huge events with thousands of people and I used to sell Mary Kay solely for the reason to go to the big conventions and get pumped up. Butthe timing just has to be right. I’m with you, too many social things back to back is just too much. I like having my alone time.

    • FitBritt
      September 17, 2013

      I totally agree! I dread going to things after work because I’m so darn tired and I just want to go home and regroup! I’m getting better at doing things after work, mostly because I convince people to workout with me or do something without alcohol (I like to save that for the weekends). I also agree that going to events can be fun but you really have to be ready for it!

  • Nellie @ Brooklyn Active Mama
    September 17, 2013

    I am insanely introverted but blogging has brought out a new side of me. So has Zumba. I think I am squarely in the middle for the most part. I get wanting to hang out by yourself though my husband is kind enough to take the kids away and leave me with my laptop because he knows I totally need this time to myself. All though I LOVE conferences they exhaust me too, and I simply just need a quiet place to get away from all the crazy. Awesome post girl, you are not alone!

    • FitBritt
      September 17, 2013

      Thanks Nellie! I was hoping I would get some other bloggers to chime in on this because I generally feel like an outcast amongst my friends!

  • Paige@FitNotFad
    September 17, 2013

    Such an introvert!! Totally feel you. And my boyfriend is the epitome of an extrovert. It works somehow!

  • Jillienne @ ChasingRaspberries
    September 17, 2013

    I am definitely the extrovert in my relationship. The hubs is a major introvert. He could stay in all weekend reading books,playing video games,and working in the garage. Though somehow we seem to find a common ground. Opposites attract!

  • Sara @ Fit.Fun.Femme
    September 17, 2013

    I’m right in the middle. I NEED to be around people and love face to face interaction but also love my down time spent blogging and alone time with my husband and pup. Does that make me an inextrovert?

    Loved reading your perspective on this!

  • Sarah @ Making Thyme for Health
    September 18, 2013

    I can totally relate to how you feel. I am also an introvert and Brandon is an extrovert so sometimes there is a disconnect there. But there are times when I just rather be alone or at home, doing my own thing.
    I think blogging is ideal because (like you said) you can shut down when you’ve had enough. It’s on your own personal timeline which I love. I just wish I had more time to do it! πŸ™‚

  • Kimberly
    September 18, 2013

    I am an introvert to the fullest and can relate to almost everything you said. Except my husband is an extreme introvert. He won’t even share info online via social media!

  • Nicole
    September 22, 2013

    Interesting! I always categorized introverts as shy people and extroverts as outgoing people, so I always just think of myself as a total extrovert. But the way that you look at it, I suppose I’m kind of both, because I love my alone time to do things and hang out solo. I also agree with you on over-scheduling and it making you feel overwhelmed. I think there’s a nice balance between low-key time and making lots of social plans. The key to being happy is achieving the balance that works for you πŸ™‚

  • Holly
    September 22, 2013

    Some genius writers were introverts. For example, Emily Dickinson only rarely left her house or room, for that matter, in Amherst, MA. Yet, she wrote some pieces, notes, and poetry that transcends time and are still the subject of discussion and interpretation today. It is fine to introverted and be alone, at times, because you are not lonely. Introverted-ness should never interfere with our typical socializations. After all, humans are the most social animals on earth and we need socialization to function properly. Having said that, there is a continuum of preferable socialization practices and interactions for all of us! Go for your day to yourself!

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